Woman Wednesday: Sophie

*Note: Woman Wednesday is a part of our blog. Each Woman Wednesday post will feature a woman who would like to share information in the hopes of inspiring and motivating other women. Comments are welcome below.         


Q and A with Sophie, Lichfield, England

“Most successful people have been through a struggle at some point, and I believe it is these hard times that create the grit necessary for entrepreneurship.” 

 

 

Q: What were your younger years like?

A: I believe that through struggle, comes light.

My younger years weren’t filled with rainbows and unicorns. My amazing mom suffers from bipolar disorder and 20 years ago, when I was growing up, there was not as much support or understanding around the topic. This meant that I was more the parent in our relationship. I believe this experience is the catalyst to why I carry so much compassion towards women and the reason behind my passion as a coach.

 

 

71038671_419792072288924_2537650722120400896_n

 

Q: What are you passionate about?

A: I’m Sophie Starkey, a women’s sales strategist and founder of The Authentic Selling System. I am on a mission to change the way that women feel about selling.

I know far too many women who have amazing talents and gifts to share with the world who deserve crazy success and they never get there because they aren’t comfortable with selling.

Having spent most of my career coaching women, I noticed a trend that crops up over and over again. You see, we are such heart-driven beings that selling makes us feel uncomfortable, to say the least!

72172211_523274014885451_3966396748758253568_n

 

72470933_402592223998967_8718847416914149376_n.jpg

 

Q: What is something valuable you’ve learned that you’d like others to know? 

A: Going through struggles can often reveal the core of who we are. One thing I have learned from my own background and others like it is that most successful people have been through a struggle at some point, and I believe it is these hard times that create the grit necessary for entrepreneurship. 

 

71541148_526130114831769_7325568749170327552_n.jpg

 

Q: What does feminism mean to you?

A: If I was to be honest with you, “feminist” isn’t a word that I would associate with, but at the same time, I suppose “feminist” is a perfect word to describe my values!

I often get inquiries from men who want to work with me, I will work with men if we are the right fit for one another, but my passion lies with coaching women. I once had a guy that said he was offended that my marketing is aimed at women. I told him that I am not anti-man; I am just pro-woman!

 

72563957_803946083341571_9152353644513853440_n.jpg

 

Connect with me! Here: 
Website

Facebook

Insta

 

 

Thoughts, questions, or comments?

Comment below! 🙂

Advertisements

Woman Wednesday: Maria Tan

*Note: Woman Wednesday is a part of our blog. Each Woman Wednesday post will feature a woman who would like to share information in the hopes of inspiring and motivating other women. Comments are welcome below.        


Q and A with Maria Tan, Entrepreneur Coach, Philippines

True abundance isn’t about what you have. It’s how comfortable you are being you, doing you, and staying you.”

 

Q: What are you passionate about?

A: I love making the impossible possible–turning “crazy ideas” into reality. 

Born into an entrepreneurial, immigrant Chinese family, I was wired into the “work hard, stay in your place, be practical” mentality.

 

IMG_7215

Pictured: We had the “work hard” mentality but HUMOR was a big part of our lives! Here I am in my early twenties with my parents and siblings.

 

Anything outside the norm wasn’t accepted and everything that had to do with dreaming differently wasn’t encouraged. Hobbies, passions, interests that didn’t result in direct payout/profit were kept as such. Little effort would be put into something “frivolous” like playing the piano or theater arts. As a result, I grew up with such a scarcity mindset and lots of self-limiting beliefs. 

 

What’s curious though, I inherited my ancestors’ entrepreneurial skills and was making money from the age of 6 by buying and selling stationery and confectionary items, dried foods, and other things I could sell. Later, I was selling my services as a teacher and consultant. For someone so “young”–I had my choice of clients and was paid above the market rate.

 

 

de034864-ad0b-4893-8e1f-8c656004f14b

Pictured: Me facilitating a communications workshop in Taipei, Taiwan. 

 

But I felt something was missing. I needed to BE MORE and think beyond what to sell next and how to make more money. I talked to my mom about the meaning of life and she pretty much dismissed my question as something frivolous and overreaching. I can’t blame her though–she comes from a generation where having a white picket fence was the dream). After that talk, I went even deeper into depression. I was living my life void of any life. I would go from one task to the next and have no memory of doing so. 

 

IMG_1386

 

I was honestly contemplating to end my life, but something in me said: “I can’t give up on myself–life has got to be better than this.” I went full-on into exploring my spiritual gifts and somehow I embraced being an empath. When I talked to people, I just knew which buttons to push to help them talk about what really mattered to them. Today, I am able to combine that spiritual gift with my talent in teaching, consulting, and seeing the big picture. 

 

IMG_9450

Check out my homepage: https://www.maria-tan.com/

 

I now coach “Misfits”–people who feel like they can’t conform to the norm and what’s expected of them, to turn their “deepest desires” and “crazy impossible dream” into reality. I help elevate their lives by guiding them in creating an eco-system around who they are and what they offer. 

 

XT209078

 

Q: What is something valuable you’ve learned that you’d like others to know? 

A: True abundance isn’t about what you have. It’s how comfortable you are being you, doing you, and staying you.

I’ve made money from an extremely young age. In fact, making money comes easy to me because I’m good with people and I can sell lots of things. When I was selling my products and services to anyone who wanted to buy, I was working day and night. The money came in fast. But my scarcity mindset back then simply drove me to doing more and feeling disconnected with the part of me that knew I was meant for more.

 

I couldn’t enjoy the money I made and was so concerned about how other people saw me and my means. I made monetary decisions out of the fear that people would look down on me and think I couldn’t afford something. What should be a blessing became a burden. Only after I embraced my spiritual self and embodied a more abundant state of being did I fully appreciate life and find joy in my existence.

 

This may sound like a cliche, but the moment you embrace the totality of who you are, the money will come anyway. So be you, stay you, do you. There is no one like you and the moment you appreciate that about you, the rest of the world will! 

 

IMG_1207

Pictured: This was a big milestone in my life. Since 2013, I sat on different boards and committees of non-profit organizations (Rotary Club and the International Women’s Club). But nothing brought me more honor than being part of an education foundation in 2018. I was a recipient of scholarship since I was 11 until about my college years. To be part of this education foundation was me paying it forward. 

 

XT209091.jpeg

 

Q: What does feminism mean to you? 

A: I was actually brought up in a matriarchal society. Even within my extended families, women are held in high regard. In fact, women can be so strong and as capable as the men in my family, but they wouldn’t be dressed down for “failure” as a male would.

 

When I left my home country (the Philippines) to pursue my tertiary education is when I saw the favorable treatment to men. I was harassed by a male professor and when I asked an administrator where I could file a complaint, I was strongly suggested not to. The reason was simply “You’re female and you’re from the Philippines. In this country, people listen to males, especially those that came from a developed country.” 

 

I never felt more violated than the moment I heard that. And I vowed since then never to let my nationality or my gender get in the way of empowerment. Feminism, for me, isn’t about equal rights. It’s about mutual respect and compassion. That country had “equal rights” but the societal beliefs then were programmed against women.

The way I was brought up, women are heard. When a woman isn’t happy, the entire family walks on eggshells. Women are loved for being caring and nurturing, for thinking of everyone’s needs, and for being non-linear in their thinking. Women are respected because they make life easier. 

That, for me, is feminism.

 

Connect with me! I’d love to chat with you! 

Maria Tan is an Entrepreneur Coach for Misfits (people who don’t like to conform to the norm), Multipassionates (people who are extremely multifaceted and multitalented), and Millennials (people born between 1981-1996). She helps her clients create an eco-system around who they are and what they offer. She’s taught more than 1000 people from all over the world! Connect with her on IG (@maria_k_tan) and check out her website (www.maria-tan.com). 

 

Thoughts, questions, or comments?

Comment below! 🙂

Woman Wednesday: Lisa

*Note: Woman Wednesday is a part of our blog. Each Woman Wednesday post will feature a woman who would like to share information in the hopes of inspiring and motivating other women. Comments are welcome below.        


Q and A with Lisa, Saskatchewan, Canada

“Take care and love yourself. You are worth loving! You have everything you need inside of yourself. You have the cognitive power to improve your life through your thoughts and emotions.”

 

Q: What are you passionate about?

A: There are many things that I’m passionate about…#1 is family–my two kids, Elle and Jude, and my husband, Elvis. Plus, our parents, siblings, and extended family too!

 

69168873_364224621199663_7149072209217060864_n

 

Next, I’m passionate about music (Arcadia), modeling, travel, language, and pretty much anything to do with marketing, film, and ecommerce. 

I used to study and perform opera. To me, opera is like traveling through language, time and space. You get to glimpse into an old world, different languages and almost forgotten culture through your whole body. I eventually crossed over into Americana and French-English Electro (Mine Tonite). My music has been featured at the Cannes Music Festival, aired on radio and TV stations in France (Come 2 Me). I’m a HUGE Beatles nerd/fan on top of it – they’ve been a major influence on my music and life. 

 

69759261_915903385430249_3457414897657184256_n.jpg

 

69215112_375315759812545_1590595637190066176_n.jpg

 

For travel, I’ve lived on and explored 4 continents/about 23 countries so far. I’ve done school exchanges in Quebec, France, Croatia, and China. Traveling is like a hunger that can never be satisfied–once I do a trip, multiple others show up on my travel list.

 

69248718_471350840080498_5412890228803239936_n.jpg

 

65320974_347609932579167_5599338057657483264_n

For marketing, from a young age, I learned sales techniques from my parents, who at the time, were selling Amway. I graduated high school with a chemical technology scholarship but quickly decided that was not the route for me (even though I adore chemical bonding!). I got a job as a sales rep for The Source (formerly Radio Shack). I was the only female employee at the time, but within 3 weeks, I soaked up so much information and performed so well that I was promoted to Assistant Manager. Within a few months, I became the top sales person in the province and the first female to hit that position. I knew I had found my calling (well, one of them). 

 

69568959_931992373839478_5245271064128258048_n 

Afterwards, I traveled for about a year in Australia and Asia then I moved to Kelowna, BC ,to start my bachelor’s degree in business administration majoring in marketing. After my first year of business, I did a summer French exchange to La Pocatiere, Quebec, where I learned French (in 5 weeks!), guitar, dance, and fell madly in love with opera. In my third year of business, I did exchanges in Caen, Normandy, France, and Zagreb, Croatia. I traveled to about 14 European countries while modelling, acting, and recording music–it was so incredible! 

 

69411356_1316577695176194_8991841851849834496_n

 

In 2013, I completed my BBA in marketing and started working in media and film in Kelowna, BC. I dabbled in ecommerce a bit but I didn’t catch on…yet. I was on the board of an independent film nonprofit called OSIF. I moved to Vancouver in 2015 to pursue film, music, and marketing, but I got side-tracked with a relationship…I ended up moving around feeling lost and started a business with my ex. 

 

I became pregnant with my 1st child and things started to go sideways. Pressure started to build and my ex could not handle it and turned to drugs and alcohol to cope with all the stress. He started cheating on me and became abusive to my daughter and I–mainly verbally, but it started to build and build with more physical, mental, sexual, and emotional controlling abuse. It was not a surprise that I became pregnant with baby #2. 

 

69281285_531421640996932_4334734222100004864_n.jpg

 

The abuse got to a very intense and scary place. Luckily, my sister came to save me and brought my family into the discussion as I had been hiding it for a long time. That’s something I learned later on that’s a typical reaction to controlling abuse is becoming a “battered woman”. This is where the woman (or man) being abused ends up so controlled they feel they have to hide and protect their abuser. My abuser controlled me in many ways, but one thing he would do was threaten to commit suicide if I didn’t forgive him. He even cheated on me when I was 7 months pregnant with my daughter, he blamed me for it, then said he was going to kill himself over and over again until I said I forgave him.

 

At age 30, I was a pregnant single mom moving into my parent’s basement. I was completely broke, anemic, depressed, could not find work, I was not eligible for maternity leave (I ended up going on social assistance/ welfare) and was on the road to bankruptcy. My ex was using our business cash flow for drugs, which was a very expensive habit. It felt like I was living in a nightmare. 

 

Thankfully, I went to counselling, I meditated every day, and after applying for 100s of jobs, I said “screw this!” and started my own business back up again–Unbound Market. I took every free e-course, downloaded every free e-book, and watched tons of YouTube videos to learn as much as I could about ecommerce and online business. Out of my darkest time, I was able to rebuilt my life and find myself again. It was extremely hard to go through it, but now I’m grateful for everything because I am pretty much indestructible now–I focus on what I love, and I leave behind the old negativity behind.

 

69594234_2396038173970183_8843801007830859776_n

 

I was born and raised in Saskatoon, SK. We have extreme weather here. +30c in summer and -40c in winter, sometimes -50c to -60c with the wind chill (86f summer, -22f to -76f winter). I enjoy finding the silver lining in most situations–the cold is excellent for reducing inflammation and has anti-aging effects. I spent many winters tobogganing under the northern lights soaking in the light vibrations. And, many summers camping at nearby lakes (Saskatchewan has over 100,000 lakes). I have 2 siblings–a sister and brother, I’m the youngest and pretty much got away with everything and still do! 

 

Typically, I’m a girly girl but with camping and lots of outdoor activities, it’s helped me to not be afraid of getting my hands dirty. Also, being able to appreciate things on a deeper level. I know what it’s like to have nothing but family. I’m so grateful and appreciative of my life every second of every day. 

 

69349461_1264712783653054_3806304746197745664_n.jpg

 

When I was younger, I felt like there was so much more out there that I needed to experience. That feeling helped me to get out of my comfort zone and I sought out those experiences traveling to 23 countries, studying 6 languages, creating 3 bilingual music videos, being a board member of a nonprofit film group, working on commercials and TV movies in Kelowna and Vancouver, BC, modeling all over Canada and Europe, being signed with multiple agencies, completing my bachelor’s degree in business administration specializing in marketing, international business, and linguistics, plus giving birth twice with no epidurals.

 

69355841_665177250662701_1404950950040305664_n.jpg

 

Q: What is something valuable you’ve learned that you’d like others to know? 

A: First, ladies (and gentlemen), if a person uses suicide as a way of getting out of guilt from bad things they’ve done, give them a self-help pamphlet and please run away as fast as you can. I know that’s harsh but even if you think you can help them, you can’t they can only make that decision themselves. Here’s a video I recently posted about overcoming an abusive relationship that gives a bit more insight to my story.

 

69372166_2497485667204781_466544533379743744_n.jpg

 

Second, YOU are amazing!! Take care and love yourself. You are worth loving!! You have everything you need inside of yourself. You have the cognitive power to improve your life through your thoughts and emotions. If you’re stuck in a bad relationship or situation, know you have the power to change that. I highly recommend EFT (tapping- it’s like a full body reset), cognitive thought therapy (to reverse negative thought patterns and even disease–Louise Hay is amazing!), forest bathing and grounding (get outside for at least 10 minutes per day), and take your vitamins (B12, Magnesium, Zinc, Vitamin C & D and Iron are my go-tos along with Cardioflex). And lastly, meditation (or calm breathing if you prefer)…it is by far the most powerful technique to manifesting your true desires. Solfeggio frequencies are usually my go-tos–they can help repair your DNA! 

 

I posted about my recent marriage and how my life has turned around significantly in 2 years through manifestation and energy healing. I hope by sharing my story, I can encourage others to overcome trauma and create the life they truly desire and ultimately deserve.

 

69546139_451931002071321_7087294447603417088_n.jpg

 

I met my now husband, Elvis, when I was 6 months pregnant! At certain points, I never thought it would be possible to meet and trust a man. But I had this overwhelming feeling of love and I heard a voice that said, “Go for it!”. Something just clicked, we met and fell in love. He was so understanding of my situation and was like the perfect puzzle piece to the kids and I. 

 

Elvis came to the hospital a couple hours after my son Jude was born on January 20th, 2018. Just under a year later, we got engaged on my birthday January 10th, 2019, and started wedding planning asap. There’s been many other ups and downs (I had 3 surgeries within a year–check my YouTube, as I’ll be posting videos about those soon). Elvis has stuck with me through so much! I’m so grateful for him and the kids! And, grateful for staying strong with loving myself and manifesting my true desires.

 

70094481_2004415272993546_9137137262578892800_n.jpg

 

Q: What does feminism mean to you? 

A: Feminism, to me, is a very loaded subject. I’ve tended to work in male-dominated fields (such as selling electronics, film and ecommerce). Being the only female gave me huge advantages. One of my favorite (dis)advantages was being underestimated. I constantly surprised people with my knowledge, ideas, and expertise. I’ve had older males literally push past me asking “I wanna talk to a man”. Once they realized I was in a management position and knew so much, they’d be shaking my hand while leaving the store or after signing a business contract. 

I personally prefer female empowerment over feminism. I feel women are rising up greater than we have been able to in many lifetimes. We’re taking over and the world will be a better place from it. 

 

Connect with me! I’d love to chat with you! 

Links: Unbound Market is business and Unbound Heart is personal.

Website Unbound Market

Facebook Unbound Market 

Facebook Unbound Heart

YouTube Unbound Market

Youtube Unbound Heart

Twitter Unbound Market

Twitter Unbound Heart

Instagram Unbound Market

Pinterest 

LinkedIn

 

Thoughts, questions, or comments?

Comment below! 🙂

Woman Wednesday: Chloe

*Note: Woman Wednesday is a part of our blog. Each Woman Wednesday post will feature a woman who would like to share information in the hopes of inspiring and motivating other women. Comments are welcome below.        


Q and A with Chloe, Sydney, Australia 

“You’ve got one life and you get to take responsibility for it and make it what you want.”

 

Q: What are you passionate about?

A: It might sound a little cliche, but I am incredibly passionate about helping others see what is possible and go for it! So many of us, including me a few years back, have been conditioned to feel and stay stuck in our health, careers, travel, following our dreams; that’s got to change. And so I tied that in with my passion for the past 9 years of business strategy, from supporting my corporate clients through to now in business utilizing unique and free strategies to have female health coaches go from zero to fully booked out using organic and free marketing methods. ️

 

CD23E2FB-610D-4CB0-93D6-406B4B17DA64.jpeg

 

So now, with the two combined, I help health coaches get more clients so they can help others change habits that are holding them back from living their best life and coolest job ever! And the best part, I’ve been able to travel and work 10-15 hours per week to make such an awesome impact! And this is what I stress as important as well, to establish balance right from the get-go. And because my 1-1 spots are filled, I decided to focus the rest of this year on bringing the very same Passion to Prosperity blueprint that had me go from zero to fully booked out as health coach to more certified health coaches in more affordable ways. I’m so excited!

 

IMG_4662.JPG

 

Q: What were your younger years like?

A: I moved around a lot as a kid and it makes me wonder if that created a lot of resilience in moving schools, leaving friends behind, and starting again. Resilience has been essential for me in the past few years to really go for my dreams, fall on my face, and get back up.

 

865B8027-0F47-4D6D-8ECB-97FD1ED6A924.jpeg

 

Family life was awesome, we are such a tight family–with me, my sister, and my parents. We had to be close since we truly relied on each other with moving so often. Our parents really pushed us to finish school and go to university, an opportunity they didn’t really get to make the most of. So, both my sister and I  studied psychology; we’ve always been so fascinated with human behavior.

 

AFDE13A2-93D9-4783-ACC9-06F14E8FA18A.jpeg

 

I think I would be on a different trajectory if I hadn’t gone to university. I wonder if I would have been called back in coaching and mentoring others or if I would have seen that as an opportunity for me. Now, I run a successful business in mentoring people who are leading the change in health and wellness and helping people to experience life fully. I couldn’t ask for better work if I tried!

 

 

img_4669.jpg

 

Q: What is something valuable you’ve learned that you’d like others to know? 

A: I dreamed about leaving a legacy for a long time. I had no idea what kind of legacy, but I was always waiting for something to happen (like winning the lotto without entering…). And after I was locked up in a cell for nearly a day in a very dangerous situation (for a visa issue), it got me thinking very clearly that I was responsible for my life completely and only I could decide and create my own legacy.

 

E3518B8E-21A9-48AC-A898-8E0BD5D17863.jpeg

 

Q: What does feminism mean to you? 

A: Feminism for me is about having a dream and going for it unapologetically and without permission–you’ve got one life and you get to take responsibility for it and make it what you want.

People will probably read that and think, “Yeah, but I have to look after the kids,” or “I have to pay the bills,” or “I can’t afford it,” or “I’m not allowed,” or something else, and ultimately, we are responsible to put our family and safety first, but if you got to 90 years old and looked back on your life, would you be proud? Would your kids be proud and inspired? Or would you wish you had done something differently?

 

04E2880F-2909-439B-8DDB-722F58F91056.jpeg

 

In my coaching career, I’ve met so many people who feel stuck because of responsibility, others who they’ve given their power to say no and as a result, they’ve put their lives on hold, resenting and regretting not going for their dreams sooner. You don’t want to have a terrifying experience like getting locked in a cell to be the deciding factor on you taking charge and doing something with your life–TRUST ME!

 

6E54F0F6-7520-4674-B4E1-898A157BFD2B.jpeg

 

So, I know what’s important for me is to look back and have left a legacy, to have made an impact on people’s lives in the most positive sense, to have shown my kids what they dream is possible and to go for it, and to have actively chosen to figure out how to have everything I need in terms of money, fulfilment, relationships, passion, and just life in general.

And I hope that others see that, too.

You can contact me through:
Check out my website here:

 

Connect with me! I’d love to chat with you! 

Comment below!

Woman Wednesday: Melissa

*Note: Woman Wednesday is a part of our blog. Each Woman Wednesday post will feature a woman who would like to share information in the hopes of inspiring and motivating other women. Comments are welcome below.        


Q and A with Melissa, Utah 

I learned very early on that I could either be a victim of circumstance or I could take those challenges and grow from them. I try really hard to be a force of positivity and a problem solver.”

 

Q: What are you passionate about?

A: I am most passionate about my family! My husband and I have been together for 6 years, and he has a son who is 7. And just last year, I had a beautiful baby girl. She is actually the reason I started my business. After finding out I was pregnant, I knew I wanted to be around for all those precious moments and I knew I could never afford childcare making the money I was at the time. So after thinking about my skills, I decided being a virtual assistant and social media manager was the best type of business to start. After I started, I realized I was more passionate about working than I had ever been, plus I was good at it!

 

Aside from business and family, I am actually super passionate about fitness because it has helped shape me into the woman I am today and has helped me deal with my depression. I enjoy having goals that I can work towards and fitness has provided that in my personal life! 

 

Capture4.PNG

 

Q: What were your younger years like?

A: As a little kid, I was a competitive figure skater and a cheerleader in my later high school years. I was always good at school and remember enjoying it very much up until my senior year of high school. I even graduated early because I hated high school so much! I think this particular event helped me grow up quickly though and all the competitive sports I was in really helped shape me into a go-getter! 

 

I grew up in a very conservative family but have always been super loud and outspoken. This caused issues when I was a teen and I did lots of things to push boundaries (sorry mom and dad). I was diagnosed with chronic depression at about 12-13, but I think this mental illness is a huge reason why I am successful today. I never once let that define me and only let it push me to work harder and stay busy. 

 

 

Capture3

 

Q: What is something valuable you’ve learned that you’d like others to know? 

A: I learned very early on that I could either be a victim of circumstance or I could take those challenges and grow from them. I try really hard to be a force of positivity and a problem solver. I think if you take anything from my story it’s that you are in charge of your life! No one can force you to do anything, be anything, or act a certain way. You make decisions every day, so why not decide to grab life by the horns? Start a business, go to school, or travel the world. But whatever you do, make the decision to give it your all every day.

 

Capture2.PNG

 

Q: What does feminism mean to you? 

A: Feminism to me means equality for all. I know feminism is often synonymous with mainly white women and their rights, but I think as women, it is our responsibility to make sure that we are sticking up for women of color as well who don’t have the same level of privilege we do. I think feminism means the equal representation of all women in business and government. I feel like, as women, we are a force to be reckoned with and I would love to see us supporting each other in all things!

 

Business Facebook: The Worry Free Assistant  (sentence caps–no hyphen!)

Website: https://melissagamarramanagement.com/homepage31194097

 

 

Connect with me! I’d love to chat with you! 

Comment below!